Sing me a bawdy song, make me merry

Shit I dunno where to start with this post. Saying this as a friend.

Here's a hint though: As an ally, the only thing that you have to do is very simple. You do not fucking speak over, or speak for, the groups you claim to be an ally with. If somebody with a developmental/cognitive disability tells you that they're not bothered by MLP, you accept that and move on. You do not whine in your LJ about how they're wrong. Because they're not. You can feel that you disagree with them, you can continue to engage clueless non-disabled people on the subject, but you cannot fucking tell somebody with a disability that they're WRONG to not be bothered by this if they're not. That's not what allies do.

I don't know why you conflated feminism with all of this because you're a woman, not an ally. When you come across another woman who disagrees with you re: feminism, feel free to argue with her until you're blue in the face.

Conflicts about complex issues should happen within a marginalized group. Allies stay the fuck out of an argument like that when you see it happening because your contributions/opinions in those instances are neither worthwhile nor welcome.

If you can't accept that marginalized people are going to disagree amongst themselves about things and that when you see that happening you need to back the fuck off and engage somewhere else, then you have no business calling yourself an ally.